Let’s talk about sex, baby! Or should I say sexting. You know, doing the dirty through your phone. It’s a fun way to spice things up with your significant other, or whoever, while you’re away from them or just looking to flirt. I do have to shout you guys out for requesting this post!
Personally, I love sexting! I think it can be so much fun and it definitely sparks some energy into your messages. Furthermore, it can really serve as a tease and what’s to come for the person on the receiving end of these messages.
In today’s blog, we’ll go over the basics of sexting, messages, pictures, and dun, dun, dun… videos. What you choose to send will depend on your comfort level! Although this seemingly harmless act can be fun and kinky, the shit you put on the Internet is there to stay. Also, people can be fucked up so I want to make sure you’re taken care of!
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Before we jump into sexting, let’s talk about consent. Boring, I know, but important. Make sure that the person on the other end of your photos or videos is actually okay with receiving them. Don’t be sending no unsolicited dick pics or your coochie spread eagle to just anyone. Spontaneity is cute but you need to make sure the other person is cool with it, periodt. The best way to finding out is just by flirting and seeing if they reciprocate and match your energy. Let the messages build up to the visuals.
Similarly, make sure the person you’re going to be sending nudes to is someone that’s trustworthy. I think one of the worst and most dehumanizing things that could happen to a person is getting their nudes leaked without consent. Sexting is super intimate and the person on the receiving end needs to be someone you absolutely trust to not share your messages with others or worse, with the web.
If you’re scared of your messages getting leaked, there’s the option to use Snapchat because everything disappears after a max of 10 seconds and you’re notified if they take a screenshot or save your messages in the chat. Another option is to hide your face in photos. Not as sexy but still gets the job done.
Just trust your intuition and remember that people can have hidden motives. The safest option is to not sext at all so on that note, I’ll inform y’all that I’m in no way, shape, or form condoning, or encouraging sexting (I mean from a legal front at least).
Okay… So What Do I Say?
Ahh. Texting sexually can be so fucking cringe. Sometimes I’ll send a risqué message and I’ll literally lock my phone for an hour not wanting to read the other person’s response. Like, where did that side of me come from? Was what I said too far? Is it weird if I say “cock” or “pussy” or xyz other terms? Gosh, sometimes it can feel like you’re writing a short story for Literotica because of how steamy the messages get.
With that being said, if you’re already comfortable enough to bring up sex with your partner, hit up Literotica or Tumblr for some help with the vocabulary you use and how you say things; read erotic stories. Some of it is common sense. For example, “cock” sounds better than “penis”, “pussy” sounds better than “vagina”, and “tits” sounds better than “boobies” – this is text not the gynecologist’s office.
Honestly, just say the words in your head and if it sounds super cheesy or cringe then it probably is. You can also just watch porn and listen to what the porn stars are saying. Of course, you don’t need to be so vulgar but it’ll get you on the right track.
With that being said, sending risqué messages isn’t that hard. If you’re already flirting with your partner, there are two ways you can turn things up a notch: tell them what you want to do to them or tell them what you want them to do to you. That’s it. Easy enough, right? I know, I know, I’m a genius. Once you get better at it, you can start to tell them about your fantasies or if you’ve hooked up already, you can bring up that one time when… well, you know.
Girl, How You Hit Them Angles?
Okay, so now that you’re an expert at sending frisky messages, I’ll teach you all about them angles. I won’t lie to you, taking nudes by yourself can be hard. Even harder when you think you’ve done every pose known to mankind. But, that’s okay because there’s a solution to everything.
One thing I want you to remember is that less is more but I’m not talking about clothing. This can be applied to how often your sending nudes and to what you’re sending. For starters, don’t be sending your boo a nude every day. You want your partner to slightly work for what you’re going to be sending them. The also applies to how far into the “relationship” you are. If you’ve just been talking for a few days, feel free to tease them, don’t show too much too fast. If they ask, don’t be scared to say no and make them wait.
For example, you could say “I’m wearing this sexy red lingerie I bought today” and let’s say they respond with “show me”. Personally, I’d respond with “I’ll just show you next time you come over” or “you’ll have to wait til’ I see you in next”. Contrarily though, you could send them a photo of let’s say some cleavage, or your shoulders or whatever, and hit them with “to see the rest, you’ll have to come over”. This is a sweet way to tease your partner but also have them craving you.
Alright, onto the fun stuff. The full on nudes. So, once you’ve gotten comfortable with the idea of sending photos of your naked body to your partner, you need to figure out how to hit those angles. The easiest poses are front boob, mirror pics, and *sometimes* ass shots. The hardest are ass shots and full body because of the angles.
To be frank though, your phone’s timer and a Bluetooth phone camera remote can easily become your best friends. Just perch your phone up, start posing and make sure to hide the remote in your photos.
As for actual poses, my favorite is probably on your bed, on your knees. You can show off whatever you want, front or back, you can choose to wear lingerie or not, and you can do whatever you want with your hands. The third image in this blog post depicts what I mean. Just make sure to have your feet out of the frame if you’re shooting from behind, make sure there are no childhood pics in the background, and try to stay relaxed and comfortable. There’s no need to break your back over a nude.
For more inspo, I’ll usually go on Tumblr, or well before they banned porn, and I would use keywords to find other girls posing then I’d try to recreate the image. For example, “ass selfie”, “sext”, “tits”, etc. Nowadays, you can use Google, Literotica, Twitter, and Reddit. Honestly, some girls post pics on IG that work as inspo (no shade doe).
What Else Could There Possibly Be?
I know, I know, this blog post has gotten long as fuck! But there’s a lot to go over and I wanted to keep this as detailed as possible. So, last but not least, let’s talk about videos. I’ll try to keep this short and sweet.
Videos are tough because you literally need to look good the whole way through. You can choose to send a video through Snapchat, a quick, little 15 second thing but I’d only recommend doing that if you’re just looking to tease. Obviously, I’m not a porn star and I’m not looking to produce full length feature films but sometimes, it can be fun to send a minute length (or longer) video to your boo. It can be of you playing with yourself, showing off your body, dancing, undressing, whatever.
The only issue with that is that you can’t edit anything out, it’s a one take thing because you don’t want it to look forced. You want it to come off effortless, sexy, and seductive. I recommend getting in a comfortable position and staying in that position while you do your thing. Don’t over complicate the video and be constantly whipping the camera around.
All in all, just make sure you feel sexy, comfortable, and confident because this will translate through to your messages, photos, or videos! Like I said earlier, choose a trustworthy partner and eventually, you won’t even have to give sexting a second thought.
Pluuuus, you’ll probably never have a man complain that you’re sending him nudes 😉 (with consent, of course!)