Awkward topic alert.
And to be frank, I actually didn’t even start talking about sex toys openly until probably last year. The only friend I had that was fully open about *gasp* female masturbation had absolutely no shame talking about it. I, on the other hand, had only brought it up because I had found an amazing toy, a dildo that could cum, and I had to share it with my friends. From there, it sort of just snowballed and at this point, I mean, I don’t really care who knows about my collection. Except maybe my mom. That’s just plain weird.
Female masturbation – and I’m not including men because I can admit, it’s just not my lane – is one of those things that is extremely taboo. I mean, it’s a known fact that ladies do it too but for whatever reason, it’s just so damn cringe to talk about. That being said, I’m here to give you my totally raw, unbiased, unpaid for, and unasked for opinions on buying sex toys! Lord knows I’m not getting any right now so I’ve been getting real acquainted with my collection. Considering how lost I was when I bought my first toy, let me pass on some wisdom.
Where To Start
Okay, so first things first, there are a shit ton of options when it comes to actually buying masturbation toys. You can go to a sex store in your city, you can order online, and honestly, you’re probably still able to order from porn magazines. Personally, at this phase and age of my life, I’m not shy at all when it comes to going into sex stores and asking the workers for their advice, being seen by people I know, or buying kinky shit. I mean, I’m sure there are people buying freakier shit than I am on the daily.
With that in mind, I’m assuming that if you’re buying your first ever toy, you probably won’t be too comfortable going into a store. If you are, kudos to you. I’d recommend the Adult Fun Superstore or Venus Envy in Ottawa because both shops have friendly staff and a variety of options depending on what you’re into.
When it comes to online shopping, my go to store is Adam and Eve. Not only do they have hundreds of toys to choose from but they also sell lingerie, bondage, and movies. And wait, there’s more. They also ALWAYS have discounts and sales. Personally, I use the discount code “SARAH” for 50% off and free shipping – yes, even to Canada. The 50% off definitely comes in clutch when you’re looking at toys that are on the pricier side. When I need something that I want to come in a little faster, I look to Amazon because Prime is really a life saver. Both sites have real reviews from people that have actually used the toys and if you don’t like them when you get them, you’re able to return them!
To Vibrate Or Not To Vibrate?
Tough question, huh? If I’m being completely honest, the first toy I ever bought was a vibrator and it’s still my go to fave. I’m not a big fan of dildos because I just… find them sort of pointless. I do have one dildo however, and it’s the one that cums as I previously mentioned. Since I bought my first toy, all the other ones that I’ve bought have also been vibrators in some form.
Truthfully though, it’s up to you. If you’re more on the sensitive side then maybe a vibrator isn’t the best option for you. If you want something for penetration and to hit your G spot, maybe you should be looking at dildos. If you prefer clitoral stimulation then I’d totally recommend a vibrator. If you like the feeling of ridges and veins, then a life-replicating dildo could be for you.
The easiest option would be to simply compile a list of your preferences and apply that to your choice. There’s honestly no right or wrong when it comes to choosing between a vibrator or a dildo. One thing I should mention though, is that when a vibrator isn’t turned on, it’s technically a dildo. That’s basically a 2 in 1 feature.
Size Really Does Matter
So, for your first ever toy, you definitely don’t want to buy that 8′ extra thick pulsating cock… Unless you plan on OD’ing with lube. I would recommend something that’s around 1 to 1.25 inches wide at the most. Maybe 1.50 if you’re planning on using lube but even then, it might hurt. Once you start using the toys more often, or if you’re lucky enough to find a guy with girth, you can reach for toys that are 1.75 inches and up. Here are some great examples of beginner toys (the first four are vibrators, the last four are dildos):
- First Time Mini Vibrator
- Adam and Eve Blue Dolphin
- Adam & Eve Silicone G-Gasm Rabbit
- Adam & Eve G-Gasm Delight G-Spot Vibe
- Adam & Eve Pink Jelly Slim Dildo
- Basix 6″ Dong With Suction Cup
- Adam & Eve My First Willy
- Beginner Ding Dong
Personally, I like this lube but I’ve been ghetto enough to use coconut oil before so if you don’t want to buy lube, it’s not necessary.
Ready, Set, Go
And there, mis bebecitos, you have it. Buying masturbation toys doesn’t need to be scary. If anything, the toys will help you learn more about yourself and what you like, especially as your collection grows. It can be intimidating considering how many options there are out there but just remember that you don’t need to spend a fortune and buying toys should be fun!
Hopefully these tips help you avoid the awkwardness of discovering such a pivotal moment in your sex life. If I missed anything, feel free to ask me down below!